Monday, December 16, 2013

Cuckolding for couples

I have noticed that there is a lot of talk circulating in the "mainstream" about cuckolding. The subject has come up with women both socially and on female forum boards where my background and predilections are entirely unknown and it is interesting to hear the range of responses that go from "Wow!" to "Whatever rocks your boat" to "You've got to be joking!".

When I saw this video, I thought it might make an interesting intro to couples as a way of visually exploring the sights and sounds of cuckolding and to see if it is a turn-on, whether as a reality or a fun, fantasy role-play.

Let me know what you think.

Thursday, December 5, 2013

The Sacred Prostitute

In her book The Sacred Prostitute: Eternal Aspect of the Feminine, Nancy Qualls-Corbett has touched on the reason that cuckolding as a lifestyle so appealed to me when I first learned of it from Michael. Far from seeing cuckolding as a modified form of swinging, I perceived the lifestyle as an exaltation of the feminine and the divine powers of female sexuality which has been debased and manipulated in our patriarchal society.

Some suggest that cuckolding is one-sided and unfair to the male who remains monogamous but this reflects a fundamental misunderstanding of its essence. It is the female that is the center of the universe and, as an activity, cuckolding admits and relishes this fact. The cuckold takes pleasure in the fact that other men can offer tribute to his woman and if humiliation is an element of this, I would say that it is a gift from that part of our patriarchal society that is still an active ingredient in a couple's mindset.

Let me know what you think.

Wednesday, November 27, 2013

When it Comes to Love: Break the Rules...

If you haven't discovered The Elephant Journal, I suggest you might enjoy it. I particularly liked the article When it Comes to Love: Break the Rules though it wasn't referring to cuckolding, neither does it exclude the lifestyle and offers up insight that, I think, should apply to all of us enamored of the lifestyle.

Here is the link:

Wednesday, October 30, 2013

Hot Wife Blog

I must confess that I have been drawn to the Hot Wife Blog over the past year or so. It is a very sexy site dedicated to hotwives and their relationships with lovers and husbands. Many of the women there are in the business of marketing hotwife tapes and my personal favorite is Jackie.

I resisted the site at first because it had the appearance of a porn site offering cuckold fare. However, I kept finding myself going back to browse the site and enjoy what I saw and read there. It really does offer a good understanding of what we are giving and getting from the lifestyle and for this I thank them and recommend that you pay the site a visit!

Wednesday, October 9, 2013

Sending cuckolding greeting cards

I love creating and sending E cards like the one above to some very close friends or lovers. Has anyone created cards of their own on this theme? Did you actually send them? I find that it can be an interesting way of introducing the idea of cuckolding to a potential lover so he knows that Michael is cool with the idea.

Sunday, September 29, 2013

The Sacred Prostitute

I think this video and the book The Sacred Prostitute should have a special resonance for every woman engaged in or contemplating the cuckolding lifestyle. The Sacred Prostitute by Nancy Qualls-Corbett

Sunday, September 15, 2013

This thing called cuckolding - I think we should try this thing called cuckolding I read about on the Internet...

Would you send this card to your husband or boyfriend? If you did, what do you suppose his reaction would be? Might it creates some hot fantasy role-play in bed, a serious discussion about your desires or..?

Let me know what happens if you send it!

Thursday, August 15, 2013

Queen of Spades iPhone cover

I was browsing on Greg & Sheryl's Interracial Swingers Blog and came across the photo above of the Queen of Spades iPhone cover and immediately knew I had to have one. If anyone else is having the same reaction, they are available here:

Have fun!

Tuesday, July 30, 2013

Glory holes and cuckolds

I always thought glory holes were a figment of the porn film maker's imagination. Then, when I went to my first swinger party with Michael, I discovered a glory hole room and was initiated to the fun that can be had sucking on and fucking anonymous cocks. Still, it didn't quite feel like the real thing for reasons I couldn't rationalize, but I guess it was because it was a safe environment created for sex and wasn't public. Everyone was there to experience sex and it was a couples-only party. This is probably an an unimportant consideration. After all, men and women were fucking and sucking through a hole in the wall without necessarily knowing the identity of their partners. That's pretty real.

When I told Michael about this perspective, he understood and told me about how he had experienced the "real thing" with two different girlfriends over the years. The first time was at the Sutro Baths, a co-ed bathhouse in San Francisco in the seventies. There one found a sauna, a group sex room with a large bed with room for lots of people to play on or to stand around and watch, and cubicles with beds and holes in the wall strategically placed  for viewing the action in the next cubicle and sharing cocks.

When his girlfriend began giving Michael oral sex on the big bed in the group room, they were suddenly surrounded by lots of men who all wanted to join in. Some of the men took turns fucking her doggie-style as she was giving Michael head. Others fondled her and to hear Michael tell it, it was a very erotically charged evening. After leaving the group room, they went to a cubicle and she sucked a few cocks.

Michael's second "real" experience was many years later in Los Angeles where there was a co-ed bathhouse in the Silverlake area. Michael went there with a new girlfriend who liked it so much, they went back for seconds the next night! They started off in the jacuzzi and after some conversation with a third man there, the three of them retired to a cubicle where Michael watched her get fucked by her first black man. When he was finished, cocks started appearing through the wall as if to say "Me next!" It was surreal.

The girlfriend began sucking on the various cocks but apparently the men were over-excited because they all seemed to cum almost as soon as she got them into her mouth. She turned and tried to put one cock into her pussy but he came in her hand before she could slide it in. She had better luck with the next one who managed to last a few dozen strokes.

Hearing these stories, I had to revise my idea about glory holes being porn fiction but it seems these places are long gone now. Have all of these places disappeared or are they the best kept secrets in the alternative lifestyle culture?

Thursday, July 25, 2013


Do your friends know you are a cuckold? Have you come out to the world in general? Would you wear this t-shirt in public or the chastity cage at a nude beach?

It is one thing to brag that you have a Hotwife but it is quite another to proclaim that you are a cuckold. Don’t you want to suffer the angst that comes from others knowing?

Order the T-shirt and wear it in public with your wife and see how it adds spice to doing your errands. Let me know how it goes.


Monday, July 15, 2013

A guest post from "switchcpl"

This is a guest post from one of my favorite bloggers switchcpl. The text below describes the video above...

"Caroline James produces some of the most erotic content regarding cuckoldry on the internet.  As a long time reader, I jumped at the chance to contribute to her erotic body of work.  I have previously posted in my own blog about Dr Jake.  In fact he was a guest author in my blog so I have never written my own perspective of Jake and my lovely hotwife.  Jake saw our blog and contacted us last fall as the male half of a couple.  As it turned out, Jake is now single but here is an excerpt from his first email to us. "Jake is larger than avg at 7" and nice girth, but not a monster as we've seen you adore :) What he does offer which is unique, is the ability to cum in large amounts 4-6 times in 1-2 hours without losing his erection...he has the hardest penis ever and it stays erect and cums and cums...if you wanted a truly unique pic/vid experience, Jake is not shy, safe, respectful and always delivers."  With an introduction like that, who could say no.  When a good looking guy writes you with the promise to deliver multiple large loads of cum and to fuck for hours, that is a hard combination for any cuckold couple to turn down!  I won't give you great details about my wife's first encounter with Jake since it is all well documented in the attached video.  The video highlights several aspects of a cuckold lifestyle that excited us both

  • The sight of my wife sharing several deep passionate kisses with Jake is a constant reminder of my wife's sexual prowess and the role that I play to keep her happy. 
  • I love every time that my wife's wedding band shows up in the video as she wraps her hand around his cock or rubs herself.  Our strong relationship together is reinforced by the sight of our marriage displayed prominently as she loses herself in the lust of another man's cock and cum.
  • My wife's vocal sighs and moans as she enjoys her passion and buries his cock deep into her pussy for the first time. 
  • Jake deposited his first load of cum deep into my wife's pussy.  I edited the video to zoom just as Jake does a long stroke in and out of her pussy resulting in a huge glob of sticky cum sliding out of my wife and down his balls.
  • When my wife spins around and begins to fuck Jake reverse cowgirl style, my cock throbs as I have a front row seat of his cock spears my wife and she rides him confidently and occasionally leans over to enjoy the view of her pussy engulfing Jake's cock.
It took me several months to edit this video and I am happy to report that this is only the first part of the video.  To date Jake has only visited us once which is of course disappointing which I think you will appreciate after you watch the video.  He and my wife have made several dates but since he drives 2 hours to visit her, something has always managed to stop the meeting from happening.  I know that Jake is ready for a rematch and I hope that his travels brings him to our town frequently this summer.  My mind races with anticipation.  And I frequently debate in my own mind, do I want to be at their next meeting to capture another incredible sex act on video or should I let the two of them enjoy a long afternoon uninterrupted so I can fantasize as to what happened and how good my wife must have felt.  Quite frankly, with any luck Jake will make a few stops this summer and I can have my cake and eat it too."

I love this couple's content!

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Thursday, July 11, 2013

Cuckolding development on Reddit

I found this post on Reddit and it illustrates how quickly the idea of cuckolding can insinuate itself into the psyche of a woman. The problem is that too many men who crave this lifestyle fail to treat their spouse as an equal by communicating their desires openly and honestly.

"Three days ago my wife caught me on r/cuckold. The window in the background had this post up when I tried quickly to close: .

She got mad and told me to "never do that again". I apologized profusely and she dropped it fairly quickly (especially for her!). That night, we had sex (much to my surprise) and it was remarkable! She took control like never before, but never hinted at anything like what she saw me looking at. I chalked it up as a win and didn't think anything of it until yesterday. I watched her get dressed for work and noticed she didn't put any panties on under her skirt. When I commented on how hot that was, she said "keep it in your pants, I just don't have any clean." Again, oblivious me didn't think anything of it. She left for work and as I was about to leave, I noticed her wedding and engagement rings on the counter. This got me thinking and I went to check her lingerie drawer - plenty of clean panties! I wasn't shocked at all that night when I got a call telling me she had to work late...

Have any other men been introduced to cuckolding without talking about it first?? I guess it's just called cheating when the SO doesn't know, but it turns me on like crazy!"

Whether you leave your browser open to give her a glimpse at the subject (and your interest in it) or simply hand her a copy of my book and tell her you would like to hear her opinions, it is sure that if you don't bring up the subject of your desires, they will likely never be met.

Wednesday, July 10, 2013

Total immersion cuckolding

I enjoy what I call total immersion cuckolding. It is when every aspect of the cuckolding world comes into play and I just "wallow" in it. This video excites me for this reason. She is gorgeous, He is beautiful and black and huge. The husband is caged and I find it very exciting that a man can admit to that primal urge of denial to his woman.

Let me know if you enjoy this as much as I do.

Sunday, July 7, 2013

Mainstream cuckolding again

 I found this on Psychology Today's website about a judge who likes engaging in sex with black men while her husband, an attorney, watches:

"So in the continuing saga of the kinky cuckold fetish going mainstream, and coming out from the "down low," we have the story of Canadian judge Lori Douglas and her husband Jack King. A few years ago, Jack was attorney to Alex Chapman, representing Alex in a divorce case. Mr. Chapman happened to be a black man, and apparently, Jack and Lori share a fetish for watching Lori have sex with black men."

I don't think cuckolding or wifesharing will ever be entirely mainstream because there are too many primal urges and feelings involved in the activity for it to be openly discussed in social settings; lust, jealousy, need, desire, humiliation and much, much more. However, we are coming to the point where many more of us are thinking to ourslelves "Yes, they are into it, too!" when an article like this one surfaces.

I think we will be seeing this sort of story more and more as time goes by.

Tuesday, July 2, 2013

Cuckolding intimacies

What I am discovering is that if a man can make his mate comfortable with her inner truths, she becomes freer to express herself. With Michael’s first “Hotwife” girlfriend, this manifested with her being able to share with him her excitement about having sex with black men. The phrase “Once you go black, you never go back” might have been coined for her because she fell into a habit of seeking out black men at the swing parties they attended together. How many normal, married women would like to indulge that fantasy with the encouragement of their husbands? Her ability to share this with Michael brought them closer together.

Michael’s next girlfriend was bi and opened up about her fantasies to see him with another man. I don’t know how many women want to see their men having sex with another man but I suspect that it is more than we think. At first the idea was a turn-off for me but, strangely, the idea began to take hold of me and finally began to excite me. Who would have guessed?
Years later, Michael was with a woman who shared with him her desire for double penetrations, meaning having a man vaginally and anally at the same time. Imagine how comfortable she was with him to admit to that! They did it and it became a staple of their sexual repertoire.

Yet another woman told Michael she was turned on by the idea of anonymous sex with multiple partners in public settings. This is referred to as Dogging on the Internet and I believe it is not only a form of porn but is also a real manifestation of a primal urge on the part of women and their men. I see it as a pagan ritual with a very earthy exultation of sex.

I never hear such confidences from my female friends about their sex lives and they certainly tell me lots of intimate details about their sexual lives with their men. I’ve heard how often they have sex, how big the husband’s or boyfriend’s penis is, if they provide oral sex, etc. But, I’ve never heard about their own sexual needs and desires and the fantasies that they have for themselves. It’s as though their fantasies have been shut off. What a way to live!

(From Cuckolding by Caroline James )

Sunday, June 30, 2013

Vintage cuckolding

It is exciting for me to think back to a time when the pill was not in use and yet the urge to cuckold was alive and pressing on couples in the same primal way as it does today. Of course, there were condoms and yet I suspect that many women decided to have sex with their lovers without them for the same reasons that they make the decision to go bareback today.

Without the pill, every stroke of her lover's cock risked pregnancy. What a conflict of need and angst that must have caused for the husband, the wife and her lover!

Saturday, June 29, 2013

Mainstream Mandingo party

What I like about this scene is the nervous trepidation of the male and the aroused adventurousness and expectation of the female. A very true scenario, I find.

What I would like to see is this scenario played out wherein he witnesses her having sex with various men followed by the ride home in silence. Later, a frank and honest conversation leading to the hottest lovemaking the couple has ever had. That is how it usually goes.

Where is Adrian Lyne when we need him?

Friday, June 21, 2013

Cuckold jealousy

I am often asked if jealousy is ever an issue with Michael. The simple answer is yes. Jealousy sometimes rears its head and Michael will feel wounded by something I've said or done that gave preference to another man. The truth is that Michael is my man and the slights he feels are often incidental and unintended.

The fact is, though, his jealousy is a part of the cuckolding spice. The angst my actions occasionally cause him add fuel to our primal fire and winning me back is part of the constant ebb and flow of our relationship. The passion factor is very high between Michael and me.

If the ladies would like to experience this on a small scale. Tell your man that you are reading a new book about cuckolding that a girlfriend gave to you and ask if you can read a few passages to him for his reaction. Read to him a few pages and watch for the signs of jealousy. When they begin to manifest, take him in your arms and make love to him and see if his passion isn't greater than that to which you are accustomed.

Let me know how it goes.

Wednesday, June 19, 2013


Whether you want this as a fantasy role-play or a reality lifestyle with your spouse, give him or her the chance to say yes. Read Cuckolding together and see how big a turn-on it is for your relationship. Husbands and wives often have the same fantasies but never realize it if they don't share them. It may just surprise you!

Monday, June 17, 2013

Cuckold's view

Michael has lived this moment and seen this view many times. He tells me that the image excites him beyond description. The recollection of it comes to mind often throughout his day and keeps him wanting me in a most urgent manner. It is a most exquisite torture to take such pleasure from seeing another man’s cock slipping out of your wife’s vagina with all his semen in evidence, but we are primal creatures bent on a primal existence.

Sunday, June 16, 2013

Caged cumming

After watching me fuck two men at a party, Michael was actually able to cum like this inside his cage. It just goes to show how mentally exciting the whole cuckolding experience can be! Perhaps the primal urge for a man to "reclaim" his woman after she's been fucked by other men is stronger than we suspected. That would explain why post-other men sex with Michael is such a turn-on!

You might want to get involved or just try it as role play with your spouse.

Saturday, June 15, 2013

Size matters

Size matters in a variety of ways and it isn't just a question of how big it is though for cuckolding role play, that's my usual preference. I think Nina covers the subject very well. Love, Caroline

Thursday, June 13, 2013


“How do I get my spouse interested in cuckolding?” Cuckolding, for those unfamiliar with the concept, is a lifestyle where the man is monogamous and the woman is free to have sex with whomever she likes. It is, perhaps, a matriarchal, woman-centric concept and it has become surprisingly popular with men as well as women. Cuckolding is said to be the fastest growing alternative lifestyle and, whether couples incorporate it as fantasy role-play or as reality, it appeals to women and men on primal, intellectual and sociopolitical levels. It has been called the Intellectual Fetish. This book is intended to give men and women a look at the nuances of this provocative lifestyle which might just be the ultimate woman’s sexual and romantic fantasy.

Monday, June 10, 2013

Cuckold Talk Part 8

I am having more fun with these cuckolding conversations! Try one out on your husband to see if his "truth-o-meter" says he is excited by the prospect.

Saturday, May 4, 2013

Another excerpt from Cuckolding

Another excerpt from Cuckolding by Caroline James:

"We got in the back seat and Michael got behind the wheel in case we needed to leave suddenly for any reason. I wasn’t wearing panties and had spread my legs for him. He pulled down his pants and it was straight fucking. I didn’t need any warm-up and he looked like he could barely keep from cumming. We both needed this and, I have to say, he did a great job of making it last.

When he finally finished, he pulled up his pants and said “Thank you” and left. I’m still recovering in the back seat when I notice we’ve had a spectator. I roll down the window and motion him over. “Did you like that?” I ask him. He did, “Would you like to fuck me, too?” He looks nervously at Michael but I tell him he’s my husband and likes to watch. The next thing you know, he’s on me, in me and pumping away."

Cuckolding on Amazon: 

Monday, April 22, 2013

Cuckolding: The answer to unrequited sex?

Cuckolding is far more than sex to me as it defines me as a woman and makes a statement that goes beyond politics, sex, relations and social etiquette. It is existential in nature. It says, "This is the way of the universe."

Sadly, the universe in which  we grew up refuses to see that women are the essence of existence and, worse, that we are the chattel of mankind our function to serve rather than to inspire.

We are sought for our sexual attributes but, all the while, we are reviled for possessing them. What torment it must be for a man who must learn to reconcile those divergent views. Cuckolding offers men a place to be needed and treasured even if the dynamic seems counter-intuitive to the mainstream; a mainstream with a 50% divorce rate and of those marriages that stay intact, what percentage are thriving?

I particularly liked this passage from Unrequited Sex from Freya Watson on Elephant Journal:

"We can gently challenge commonly-accepted views we many not agree with as they appear in conversations around us—the ones that suggest that wanting sex is wrong, that wanting more sex than a partner does is wrong, that seeking satisfaction outside a relationship is wrong, that self-pleasuring is something to be embarrassed about, and so many more. Allowing these to be perpetuated, by staying silent out of a fear of rejection, isn’t of benefit to anyone. By contributing to a greater understanding and awareness around sexuality, we are helping to create a world in which sexuality is expressed more naturally and in which our gift of deep sexuality can be more readily received."

I hope you read the entire article which can be found here:

Monday, April 1, 2013

Monday, March 25, 2013

Tuesday, March 5, 2013

A different approach to cuckolding

Yesterday I took a different approach to cuckolding. I am used to the elaborate preparations of finding and making arrangements with a potential playmate on Craig's List or waiting for Saturday night to go to a swing party where Michael can watch me with other men or the hit-or-miss adventures of going to nightclubs in the hopes of finding sex with strangers. I decided to just take what I wanted.

I was at home and a man about ten years younger than I am was replacing some bathroom cabinets. He was handsome and I would definitely have gone with him at a swing party or approached him in a bar, but here he was working in our home. Should I do without?

As he was working, I stood at the master bathroom door and watched. We exchanged a few innocuous comments about the cabinets and the fittings. Nothing flirtatious. Then, without warning I began removing my clothes until I was naked. He saw what I was doing as soon as my T-shirt came off and watched me strip without saying a word. I could tell he was liking the show but was confused about what I was expecting.

I went to him and put my arms around him. "Fuck me," was all I said. We kissed and went into the bedroom where we had sex for almost an hour. We didn't use a condom.

Afterwards, I picked up my iPhone and took a photograph of his cock. Then I took a self-shot of my pussy and texted both photos to Michael.

"What are you doing?" he asked.

"I'm texting our photos to my husband. It's something we're into."

This got him hot again and we had a second round of sex. Funny how the idea of cuckolding is such a turn-on to the other man as much as it is to the husband.

This time, at least, different approach worked out very well.

Wednesday, February 20, 2013

Cuckold massage

Out of curiosity, I Googled "cuckold massage" without really expecting to find anything specific. Imagine my surprise when a search result came back for a website in the UK offering cuckold massages! This amazing service has a Cuckold Corner section of its website dedicated to the interests and concerns of cuckolding couples!

A cuckold massage is a perfect way for couples fantasizing about cuckolding to take their fantasy into reality. How I wish there was such a service like this one close to me for sometimes finding a playmate, especially on the spur of the moment, isn't always easy to do. I'll be sure to pay a visit on our next visit to the UK!

I sent an email to the proprietor of Tranquility Massage and this is what he wrote to me about the cuckold massage he offers:

"I started offering my cuckold massages after being approached by one of my male clients with the question "Would you massage my wife while I watch?"

It occurred to me, that there was probably a niche for couples who were looking to explore their fantasies without going down the route of dating sites, random "Bull" ads and friends.

So, I started to offer my cuckold massage. It's proved to be very popular, I think mainly because the wife does get a full body massage where she can just enjoy being pampered or, should the mood take her, indulge further.

My clients are usually more mature, shy, nervous and concerned about safety, discretion, limits etc and I feel that I consider all of these. It allows the wife to explore and enjoy herself with hubby present, so they both know what is happening, who with etc. I think also that, as they are paying for the "service", they have a sense of "control" over how things go.

Clients are able in advance to let me know how they'd like things to go, what levels of interaction they are happy with etc. Not all massages end in sex. Some are just sensual massages where the wife is brought to orgasm by me in front of hubby, others are more interactive and some couples see me many times, each time being more adventurous as they feel more comfortable.

For some, there are "physical" issues on the part of the husband/partner and they wish to let their wife enjoy a sexual experience without the fear of an affair or rejection etc. I consider this to be a very open-minded and loving approach and always do my best to provide the kind of experience that each couple needs and wants to keep their relationship healthy.

On a flip-side, I do have some couples where the wife watches as hubby receives a sensual massage from me and she can watch him interacting with another man.

All my clients are nice, genuine and friendly people who just want to explore their fantasies. For the majority, a visit to me is their first-time at crossing the very thin line from fantasy to reality....a big step for most that tests emotions, loyalty and their feelings towards each other.


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Saturday, February 9, 2013

Cuckolding and nude yoga

Bringing the sensuality of being naked into the already sensual and spiritual world of yoga seems to me to be a natural thing to do. It is something I practice on my own and I also do this with two men who are lovers. Once a week they will come over, or I will go to them, for some intense yoga that we do in the nude followed by an equally intense sexual encounter.

Yoga is not a cuckolding activity on its own but bringing the practice into your cuckolding can be rewarding and very beneficial.

Wednesday, February 6, 2013


I came to the cuckolding lifestyle late in the game and have now written a book about my conversion and how I live this lifestyle with Michael. What I've found is that the fantasy of cuckolding remains as potent as the reality and the reality of living this lifestyle feeds even more fantasy. It is a heady cocktail with many subtleties and variations.

I didn't expect my book to be read by more than a handful of people so it has been surprising and gratifying that so many women have bought the book and made contact with me to ask questions and discuss how to introduce the subjects to their husbands or boyfriends. My usual answer is to suggest that they give their man my book to read. Following that, an affectionate talk about the hows and whys of the lifestyle is in order.

However, I don't have all the answers and there are times when it seems impossible to pull off a cuckolding evening. Craig's List candidates can be unreliable or perhaps they have too many takes on a given evening. It is understandable that they are in demand given the photos they post in their ads. Going commando and trying to recruit a sexy guy at a bar is fraught with its own problems but we've had great success with it occasionally. Sometimes Michael and I have a good laugh at our washouts and I have to ask, "Who do I have to fuck around here to get fucked?!"

In spite of the obstacles, I love the lifestyle and it always amazes me to realize that the man of my life is as concerned as I am about making sure I find great men to have sex with me. Isn't that the best?

Sunday, January 6, 2013

Devotional Sex

This comment was received from a reader:

"Caroline, have you read about Devotional Sex? It's a very cool mix of soft femdom where the male doesn't get so denied and it's so romantic. I'm not mentioning this as a substitute of cuckolding, of course ;)"

I have been following the Devotional Sex blog on Tumblr and enjoy the posts and thoughts I read there. The photo above and the post below is from that blog which, I think, goes very well with cuckolding. Let me know of you agree.

Living Tantra:

When living Devotional Sex it becomes normal that most erections don’t lead to ejaculation.
So when a Knight is asked to pose he isn’t thinking about ejaculation because he knows that this is very unlikely to happen now.

Instead of feeling frustrated about not being allowed to cum the Knight enjoys feeling aroused. He enjoys feeling desire for his Princess. And in this photo it feels good to be naked and aroused in the open air.
Being relaxed and comfortable with enjoying arousal for the feelings of that moment, and not thinking that it must lead to release, is very Tantric.

So even though there are no Tantric ceremonies or breathing exercises, Devotional Sex moments such as in this photo can be said to be living Tantra.