Wednesday, December 19, 2012

Cuckold Captions is back


Cuckold Captions is back: http://cuckoldingcaps.blogspot.com/

Michael and I do these together and I hope you have as much fun with them as we do. Some of the situations have already happened to us and some we are hoping to experience. Let us know what you think!

Wednesday, November 28, 2012

When cuckolding was "mainstream"

I have mentioned that notable matriarchal societies revered female liberties some of which now manifest in the cuckolding lifestyle and I find this interesting and compelling. It is as though this undercurrent of "rightness" is trying to revive itself into what has become a degraded modern patriarchy.

The following is an excerpt from a blog about the Indian culture in the Sonoma area of California. See if what it describes doesn't seem familiar:

"On the third night of the Bear Dance Ritual, the women proceeded by torchlight from The Sacred Springs, and presented themselves to the Chief of Chiefs who was now one with the spirit of the Great Bear. They brought with them as an offering The Gift.

The Gift was what the Indians called sex, and it belonged to a woman, just like we own a car, or a sweater. The Gift was theirs to give to whomever, whenever, and wherever they chose. The punishment for trying to take The Gift, without the woman offering you the gift first, was irrevocable and immediate: Death.

The women were so generous with The Gift that rape was obsolete.

To fall in love as we do in our culture today, to obsess over one particular female, to want to keep her from sharing The Gift with anyone other than you, was an aberration abhorrent to all healthy sane Indian men and women.

At the first sign of such a mental disorder, a Shaman was called in to perform exorcisms, healing rituals, and to cure the deviant.

In Sonoma, the Indians received their souls, their names, and their assigned life-partners at the age of four. Marriage had nothing to do with sex.

Of course, if you work for the State, even as a volunteer, you are not allowed to say any of these things.

The winners rewrite history.

Indians in Sonoma never associated pregnancy with The Gift. Sex had nothing to do with marriage, because you were married at the age of four. An Indian woman could give The Gift to whomever she chose, according to how the Spirit of The Turquoise Maiden moved her. If she were so inclined, she could even give The Gift to her husband.

The one thing that most upset the Catholic Padres...was the way women gave the Gift so generously, and to so many men. They gave it to their brothers, their sons, their uncles, their cousins, and even to strangers.

Baby-making was considered a magical power, something women did all by themselves with the great Creator Spirit. So pervasive was this belief that there was no word for Father in the Indian language; only Uncle.

No wonder the Sonoma Indian men worshiped the Sonoma Indian women."

I have left out much of what was written by the author, leaving in what is pertinent to our interest. To read this very well written post in its entirety, do a Google search for: The Sonoma Mission and the Bear Sacrifice Site. Her book, Sonoma Ghosts by Carla Heine, is available here: https://www.createspace.com/3362362Sonoma Ghosts

Monday, November 19, 2012

Reader's comment on Cuckolding by Caroline James


Michael just had me look at a thread on the excellent Our Hotwives forum where there is a thread titled "Has anyone read the Carolyn (sic) James cuckolding book?" A forum member posted, "I think Caroline's book 'Cuckolding' is one of the top two or three in the genre."

Thank you so much!

See the thread here: http://www.ourhotwives.org/forum/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=21611

Wednesday, November 14, 2012

"You ought to see my pussy..."


Sometimes I'll think of the most audacious and titillating things to say to Michael that have to do with our cuckolding activities, real and/or imagined, because what I have done or might do both provide stimulation for us that enhances our relationship.

Last night at a large celebration with hundreds of people most of whom Michael and I didn't know, I found myself being followed around by a young man in his mid-twenties. He had been drinking, maybe a little more than the others present, and was letting me know that he fancied me. Finally, he blurted out, "You have a nice ass." Michael was standing near enough to hear which prompted me to say, "You ought to see my pussy. I had it waxed earlier today." The boy stared back at me not knowing what to say and I saw a big smile cross Michael's face signalling his enjoyment of my unexpected remark.

Though he was staying in the hotel where the event was being held, I didn't suggest we make that journey realizing that in his inebriated condition, he would be unlikely to perform. The rush of the moment was best left unspoiled by a frustrating, follow-up attempt.

The point is, the cuckolding rush can be had without performing the deed. Couples wanting to experiment and dip a toe in these waters can do so without going all the way. If it thrills, continue!

If the young man had a little less to drink that evening, he would have had an interesting anecdote to tell his friends about the woman he fucked while her husband watched. As it was, Michael and I had some fabulous sex when we got home.

Why not think of some sexy things to say to your spouse and see if this works for the two of you?

Friday, October 26, 2012

Cuckolding on Kindle


Cuckolding is now available on Kindle and I want to thank Vanessa Chaland for her invaluable help in this and a related matter. See it at: Cuckolding

Saturday, October 13, 2012

Cuckolding: “How do I get my spouse interested in cuckolding?”


Cuckolding as a lifestyle is puzzling to many because it seems to go against the grain of modern society to have a happily married couple where the man is monogamous and the women is sexually free. Women have told me that it is the ideal fantasy. Men have told me they wish their wives would be interested. Maybe it's time for these men and women to talk to each other and share their fantasies about this subject.

Whether couples adopt cuckolding as fantasy role-play or as the reality of their relationship, it is a highly erotic arrangement that also appeals to the intellect. I have written a book that, I think, speaks to men and women equally and my answer to the question  “How do I get my spouse interested in cuckolding?” is: Have them read my book.

Fifty Shades of Grey has shown that women are beginning to take a strong interest in their sexuality on their own terms and it could just be that we are moving away from the stifling constraints of a patriarchal society and towards the creative environment of a matriarchal paradigm. A man who understands this will see that he, too, has a lot to gain from this shift.

If this subject has already captured your imagination, get the book and give it to the one you love. You can find it here: Cuckolding (Amazon) or Cuckolding (CreateSpace) or Cuckolding (Kindle).

Tuesday, August 7, 2012

Cuckolding: A matriarchal instinct?



I can’t help but noticing that some elements of the cuckolding lifestyle appear to mirror those of matriarchal societies where women would be free to have sex with men as a normal course of events but also as part of a rite that brings the power of the Goddess to men by creating a balance between the feminine and masculine and in raising energy.

I don’t believe that worshiping women is the primary, conscious instinct when a man brings the subject of cuckolding to his woman but where does it rank on the scale of subconscious motivations? Is this a timeless, primal urge to which men have always been subject? Certainly this trait, along with many others, has been discouraged and punished in patriarchal societies like our own. Is the rise of cuckolding as a compelling, if privately practiced, lifestyle the forerunner of a return to a matriarchal way of life?

Time will tell.

Thursday, July 12, 2012

Queen of Spades


 I saw this photo and couldn't take my eyes off of it. It says so much to me and, no doubt, to others as well. I've yet to see a Queen of Spades shirt worn in public but wouldn't it be something to witness a husband standing proudly next to his wife as she wore it for all to see? Maybe I'm dreaming but maybe I'm not. Let's see what the next couple of years brings about as our lifestyle/fetish/obsession comes closer and closer to the surface of society.

Maybe I'll wear one "for a joke" to see what sort of reaction it provokes. It any of my readers have worn one in public, I would love to hear what sort of reaction it caused.

If you want one, Master Phil was kind enough to supply the link:

http://www.cafepress.com/mf/27723325/queen-of-spades_tank-top

Tuesday, June 19, 2012

A stranger's hotel room


It gave me a curious pleasure the other day to have sex with a man I didn't like and would never have given the time of day in my previous life. He might have thought I was attracted to him but I didn't do anything special to give him that idea. Whether he thought he got lucky or if this happens to him all the time, I don't know.

I let him fuck me in a hotel room and, for fun, I called Michael after we'd finished but while I was still in bed with him. I told Michael how this stranger had fucked me and the guy couldn't believe his ears. "See you soon, my love," I said as we hung up.

Wednesday, April 11, 2012

Cuckolding and coitus reservatus


Michael and I have been experimenting lately with tantric sex or coitus reservatus. We are far from experts but the idea is for Michael to have multiple orgasms but without ejaculating. It is normal for Michael to be hyper excited after I've been with another man and we've noticed that his body demands an orgasm. This is what makes tease and denial so tantalizing. But the tantric orgasm requires discipline and patience. We bring him to the limit of orgasm but stop short of ejaculation. He can throb but not squirt.

Is this frustrating? At first, very! As we progressed with this approach, it became obvious that it left Michael in a constant state of semi-arousal. His cock became super sensitive to his own thoughts and to my touch. Erections sprang forth involuntarily and semen drips constantly. This, I think, is fun!

I wonder how many other couples have incorporated this into their cuckolding?

Sunday, March 18, 2012

Cuckolding Michael

I've been asked by men and women alike what it is I love about cuckolding with Michael. There are so many answers I could give. Some would cover the big picture such as how it has liberated me in the sexual and non-sexual (if there is such a thing) aspects of my life. I love the emotions I experience when Michael watches me kissing another man as the stranger is thrusting into me. I love the way I came just as another man entered me without any build up at all. I will never forget Michael holding me open so a lover could put himself into me. Neither will I soon forget the many and conflicting emotions and sensations from our one and only pregnancy scare to date.

The sex is good but the closeness I have with Michael is even better. I cannot imagine any of the men I play with being able to fill Michael's role in my life. A man I was fucking asked if I felt less of Michael because I experienced other men. The question amazed me because I think much more of him because of this thing we do.

I don't know if cuckolding is like this for other couples, but i hope it is.

Sunday, March 4, 2012

Michael has a small penis


I read somewhere that a substantial number of women tell their female friends that her husband or boyfriend has a small penis. I understood this immediately and it fits perfectly into the lifestyle of cuckolding where part of the pleasure for a woman is that others secretly share private information as well as the woman's personal favors. It also serves another purpose to spread this gossip among female friends. It is a matter of self defense. Once a woman brags about her man's cock to another female, she has set the other woman's mind and imagination to work thinking about the penis in question and it would be reasonable to assume that, at some point, that woman might want to see and experience that big cock for herself.

Therefore, let me say here and now that Michael has a small penis. I will let you decide for yourself if I write this to embarrass him, to protect him from curious women or because it's the truth.

Sunday, January 22, 2012

Is cuckolding gay?


Is cuckolding gay? Of course it is and of course it isn't. If a man wants to have sex with another man, I think he is gay or at least bisexual. If a man has sexual contact with another man as an interaction with his wife, I think he is a cuckold. It is a common fantasy for men to want to see two women having sex together. I think it may be just as common for a woman to see two men going at it. Women have traditionally been sexually repressed with little encouragement from anyone to express their most intimate fantasies and desires.

I think the Internet made porn privately accessible to women who began watching and turning on to sex videos that they would never have seen otherwise. Shaving pubic hair, which had been a grooming habit almost exclusive to porn stars and strippers, became more common for women in general as they began taking their cues from the videos they watched online. Where, in my vanilla-straight life before the Internet, would I ever have seen a man sucking another man's cock or even imagine that the sight of them would excite me?

The discovery of the cuckolding lifestyle through Michael and the stories of his adventurous past opened a whole new world to me. Things began to compel me that had previously been so hidden away in me that I had no idea these urges existed. Fucking other men in front of the man in my life would have been unthinkable. Asking my man to suck another man's cock for my voyeuristic pleasure would never have entered my mind.

This all came up for discussion when Michael told me that in earlier days, no one used condoms at swing parties. Often a man would begin fucking a woman immediately after another man had cum in her. I was surprised to hear Michael say that it is an indescribably erotic feeling to slip his penis into a woman who is full of semen. Had he ever gone down on a woman whose vagina was full of semen? Many times, he told me. Could you taste the cum in her? Yes, he said. Did he like it? He liked what it meant. Had he ever sucked a cock? No, but a previous girlfriend had asked him to stroke the cock of a stranger who was about to fuck her. Would you suck a man's cock for me if I asked? Yes, if it would excite me. I told him that it would excite me very much. It wouldn't make him gay. I would make him mine.

Michael opened the door for me by describing his experiences in this lifestyle but he never pushed me into it or tried to convince me of anything. The result is that I have pushed myself forward and, thankfully, Michael has been there for my every step forward.

Thursday, January 5, 2012

A video from Switch Couple

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One of our favorite blogs is The Adventures of my Slutty Wife. Here is a video clip they sent to us knowing it would go to the heart of our interest and turn us on. It did and we hope you like it as much as we do!

See more of them here: http://switch-cpl.blogspot.com/