Thursday, April 24, 2014

Cuckold lifestyle: Statistics show the lifestyle is on the rise

"The past week has seen an increase in the news on cuckold lifestyles and cuckold relationships. On the road to finding alternative methods to keep marriages from joining the divorce statistics, cuckold scenarios are surfacing more and more."

This isn't news to any of us and the growth of the cuckolding lifestyle has been continuous for decades but I am glad to see articles like this one from Mike Hatcher at surfacing in what is a mainstream website giving our favorite subject a chance for serious contemplation by men and women who have these inclinations but feel as though they are somehow marginalized by society for their primal instincts.

Part of the problem cuckolding faces as a lifestyle is that its prime venue of dissemination is on porn sites and blogs that feature lurid photos and videos. Did I mention that, Vanessa Chaland's Cuckold Letters and Mrs. Kelly's Playhouse are among my favorite websites? These sites and blogs are so potent in what they convey as to transcend the definition of porn becoming sociological documents of human relations and instruments of change in the process. Would Mike Hatcher have written his article had not Vanessa, Emma, scott and others gone before him in an unabashed fashion making a case for the lifestyle without apology?

If you are interested in how "mainstreet" is presenting our preferences, check out the article. I think he did a great job of presenting the subject and I expect others will follow his lead.

Sunday, April 20, 2014

Tantric “Sluts” or Living Goddesses

Woman, yoga, cuckolding, living, enjoying, sensual, appetite, fulfilled. Words that spring to my mind as not just related but as being a flow that is interrupted at your peril.

I took great pleasure in reading Tantric "Sluts" or Living Goddesses: Why it Matters. If you follow my blog, I suspect you will enjoy it, too. Let me know. You can find it here:

Monday, April 14, 2014

Lover wanting to inseminate me


The video I've posted here is not of me but it reminds me of a particular session I had with a young man I met on a hotwife/cuckold board. He was about ten years younger than I am and especially driven to have sex with me in a way that suggested something more than lifestyle-play sex. When I thought we had finished for the afternoon, he quickly recovered and wanted to fuck me again which was fine with me.

When he finished the second time but wanted to continue fucking me, I asked him what was going on. He became embarrassed and didn't know how to answer me. I told him that after all we had just done together, the least he could do is tell me the truth. That's when he told me he was wanting to get me pregnant.

We talked about this and he confessed he had never had this compulsion with other women he had been with but something about the dynamic between us and the way he reacted to me, he felt the need to inseminate me. He said he realized I was probably on birth control but felt that if he came inside me enough times, he could beat the system and achieve his goal. I was touched at how his admission came forth and how telling me made him quite vulnerable. He was trusting me with this truth.

I told him that if he thought he could beat the odds, I would like to have him fuck me again. He did and I cautioned him not to cum too quickly if he wanted to accumulate more sperm before ejaculating again. He fucked me for an hour.

Friday, April 11, 2014

A tattoo for me?

I don't have any tattoos and I have never wanted one though I do find them to be fascinating and have, from time to time, browsed through various "ink" magazines wondering what it would be like to have such exotic designs as a permanent fixture of my identity. It has always been an objective and academic curiosity for me. Tattoos are just not a part of my personal aesthetic.

Lately, however, I have been trying to get a particular idea regarding a specific tattoo out of my mind. It isn't easy to be rid of the idea because the tattoo that haunts me is defining and the thought of it continues to excite me. In fact, I get more excited about it as time goes on and I mean physically excited as well as intellectually. It gets me wet when I think about it. When I wake in the morning, it is the first thought that comes involuntarily to my mind and it's very pleasant to feel wet and ready at the mere thought of such a thing. I am beginning to think that not only do I want this tattoo, I need it.

The object of my fascination and obsession is a variation on the Queen of Spades symbol, the one used to indicate a woman's preference for having sex with black men similar to the one in the photo  above. I have worn the temporary QoS tattoos and enjoyed the effect they have on Michael, my lovers and the strangers who happen to catch sight of them when I wear them in public. I especially enjoy the effect they have on me when I wear them; like wearing a Givenchy gown, it changes the way you feel and act.

What I have in mind would be personal and not for public display except for when I find myself on a nude beach and I don't mind that "public" seeing it. I want it on my pubic mound where it would be covered only if and when I let my pubic hair grow to a full bush, which I rarely do. I prefer to be completely waxed and hairless which would give my adornment no place to hide when in sexual situations, at lifestyle parties or on nude beaches or cruises.

Michael likes the idea but more importantly it excites me tremendously and there is a feeling of inevitability that soon I shall have it.

Friday, March 28, 2014

A follow-up note from my anonymous friend


I hope you don’t mind a little follow up correspondence.

I did get another copy of “Cuckolding”, which I actually read a couple of years ago.  I have also been enjoying reading through the first few pages of “Cuckolding: Questions and Answers”.  

In the introduction, you talk about being aware of the word “cuckold” as an insult before you were aware of it as a “lifestyle”.  When I was in my twenties, the only sources of information I had were Penthouse magazine and “Joy of Sex”.   So, I became aware of the attraction situationally and had no idea what to call it.  I was an English major (by convenience) for a couple of years and I am sure the OED would reference “adultery” and “derision” in its definition of the word “cuckold”.  If I allow, condone, encourage my wife to have sex with another man, take pleasure from watching or joining in, how can it be adultery?

The derision part is pretty hard to take too. I understand that is part of the attraction for some people, just not for me.  So, though I certainly acknowledge being aroused both the fantasy and reality of watching my wife with another man, I have some trouble “self identifying” as a “Cuckold”.  This is nothing I mean to argue about.  I realize that you are naming a lifestyle or sexual activity that encompasses a vast range of activity, and I am on the rather “vanilla” end of the spectrum.  It’s just an observation.

But, it does go to what I observed earlier about your different perspectives.  On the Cuckolding Lifestyle blog, you posted a video of an Australian (perhaps) couple with a black man.   I have both watched and participated and I understand that husband’s arousal.  While I have never experienced it, I do find some interracial videos arousing, including that one.  But, the “BBC” does seem to be some kind of very obsessive sub-fetish, with some expressions almost being “anti-white male”, though I realize this is more of an expression of the desire for extreme humiliation in some people.  I am cool with interracial sex.  But, my wife has never expressed the slightest interest.  Can you give me a woman’s perspective on the attraction, or is it an obsession?
Your anonymous reader"
Hello again,
Interracial sex can be an attraction, obsession or both. In my case, it's a fascination. I love the taboo, the color contrast and the size issue. In having sex with black men, I am getting something Michael is not and cannot ever be. There is something about that which we both find compelling. That is not to say that I go exclusively with black men but I admit it is a preference.

Monday, March 24, 2014

Cuckold's 36 days without release


I've been focused on how we play games in the cuckolding lifestyle that also make for good fantasy even if a couple has yet to take the step into the real world with their cuckolding. This is a game I play with Michael edging him and denying release until a later date. In the meantime, he wears a cock cage to prevent "accidents". :)

Friday, March 21, 2014

A note from a friend on Our Hot Wives (.org)

Hi Caroline,

I spoke to you a few days ago on and I thought I would send a message here. I'll probably send it over there, too, since I don't know how often you are on either site. I just finished reading your book and wanted to let you know I don't think I've ever been so turned on by reading about a serious topic in my life (and I read a lot) :). I actually had to stop reading a few times because I was getting too excited and my cock was becoming way too hard to be sitting in the same room with some of my family (my Dad is visiting). I really appreciate the work you put into writing and helping those of us who are considering the hotwife lifestyle. I can't wait for my wife... so I can discuss this with her. Thanks again for the book and for taking the time to offer encouragement.


Thursday, March 13, 2014

Guest post from an anonymous reader

The following is a guest post from a reader who wishes to remain anonymous. After a couple of email exchanges with him, I invited him to put his articulate and incisive thoughts in writing so that I could share them on the blog. As I am currently writing another book about the games, both fantasy and reality based, that define the cuckolding lifestyle, I thought his post was topical. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.

"I would be curious to know what percentage of your readers played with matches on railroad trestles as children.  Because if “cuckolding” isn't playing with matches on the railroad tracks of evolution, I don’t know what is.  And, even if one did not find it incredibly arousing, how could one not find it incredibly fascinating?   The range of variation is astounding.

When it comes to proclivities like this, I think we come into the world with our potentialities in place.  My awakening occurred, “pre-Internet”, in college and over the first few years of marriage.  It was all just a little confusing.   It took a while to figure out why even the thought of watching my wife with another man was such a turn on, and to reconcile the attraction within myself.

My guess is that the “Sperm Wars” theorists are on to something.  Very primal mechanisms, developed over millions of years of human evolution are triggering very complex, highly nuanced and varied responses in our modern brains and psyches.  Some of us, men and women, have tuned in and to varying degrees, in various ways, learned to manipulate our response.  There may be competition in the world, especially among males; but the real competition is in the vagina. At its very basic core, it’s really all about fertilization.  Contraception has relieved us of most of the real worry, and been a tremendous boon to women.  But, the underlying energy is still there.   The thought of another man with one’s wife is enough to flood the body and brain with intoxicating chemicals which change heart rate and respiration.   How powerful is that?   Actually watching one’s wife enjoy herself with another man is like doubling the dose.

No doubt the life style has changed over the years, but it has been around in some form forever.  The internet has certainly changed things.  But, I do think there has always been an underlying aspect of “Goddess worship” involved in the practice from the start.  Certainly any man who truly loves women will know that the average woman’s capacity for pleasure exceeds his physical ability.  A realistic man also realizes his woman was looking at attractive men when she picked him.  Her sexuality did not become static when she met him. Refractory periods are a fact of life.  We learn to postpone orgasm, derive great arousal and satisfaction from giving our partner pleasure; we revel in her ability to receive sexual pleasure.   I might well trade the ability to urinate while standing for the ability to have a dozen orgasms over the course of an evening.  It’s really awe inspiring when you think about it.  So, we learn to take pleasure from her pleasure.  It can really become “all about her”. A very deep connection develops between the marriage partners.  We love our wife’s sexuality as part of her. 

It’s not exactly a thing a man might discuss with his friends; but, apparently the idea turns a lot of us on.   As a bedroom fantasy, it can produce some very hot marital sex, and that may be all you ever need.   If you decide to step out into the real world, be careful and have fun."

Saturday, February 15, 2014

I love this woman!

I stumbled onto a blog this morning that I am really enjoying. The blogger is a modern woman with all the attributes and she is adorable. Like most of us, she seems to struggle with many of the issues that challenge and obstruct what is normal and natural in a woman's life yet she comes to terms with them in her own way. She is not "in the lifestyle" and for all I know she is completely unaware of it but she writes honestly and with intelligence about things that opened the door to cuckolding for many of us. One of her posts begins with:

"I have a crush on another man.”

My words, hanging there between us, seemed to have suddenly sucked all of the air out of the restaurant.

I had played a hand that I couldn’t unplay even if I’d wanted to. The flirty drunkenness I’d felt only moments before suddenly evaporated in sober apprehension. There was nothing to do now but wait for my husband’s reaction.

I hope you, too, will enjoy her blog and treat her with the respect she deserves.

Friday, February 14, 2014

"Your dick is so big..."


The things I say to my lovers tend to excite me, my lover and Michael as well. Telling a lover how big his dick is makes for a very exciting reaction from each of us perhaps for different reasons. Talking to Michael as another man is fucking me is also a special pleasure that titilates us and we often quote back to each other what was said during the intense moments of a sexual encounter.

Try it. You'll like it! :)

Wednesday, February 12, 2014

My client wants to fuck me...

With women more and more ensconced in the workplace, the professional world has become the home-away-from-home that provides satisfaction and growth not to mention opportunities that ordinarily don't present themselves to women whose work is in the home. Cuckolding couples have turned this to their advantage and the ability of a woman to text photos and short videos to her husband in real time as she engages in cuckolding activities with a co-worker, or stranger for that matter, can spice up those moments when they are apart.

Sunday, January 19, 2014

Cuckolding burns


I was attracted to this video because of its title as well as its content. Cuckolding does burn. It burns its way into your core as a primal force that you can't let go of. It doesn't matter if you live the lifestyle as I do with Michael or if it is a fantasy role-play for the two of you or if it remains a deep, buried, secret passion that colors all of your erotic thoughts.

Cuckolding burns.

Saturday, January 11, 2014

An excerpt from Cuckolding by Caroline James

One evening, I was getting ready to go out to dinner with Michael. I was sitting on the edge of the bed with a towel around me rubbing lotion on my legs. Suddenly, a friend of ours appears in the doorway giving me a long and admiring look. I didn’t know he was there as he’d only dropped by with some paperwork for Michael. I suppose he had been on his way to the guest bathroom though he’d overshot it by a few feet.

“Wow!” he said making it clear he wanted to enjoy the view for awhile. I took this for a come-on and my response was to spread my legs to he could get a real look at my pussy and to let my towel fall off of me as I leaned back. He didn’t know what to do next. Michael was in the front room.

“Fuck!” he said.

“OK,” was my reply.

He looked down the hall to see if Michael was aware of what was going on.

“Come on, it’s now or never.” He came in and started to close the door behind him. I told him to leave it open.

“Really?” he asked incredulously. I was already playing with my pussy which had gotten very wet very quickly.

He came over to the bed and I helped pull down his pants. He was rock hard and I guided him between my legs. He began thrusting inside me and asked, “What about Michael?” I just smiled.

Within a minute, he came. Needless to say, he didn’t linger, afraid of being caught by a jealous husband. I let him think what he wanted to think. He gave me a kiss in thanks and left, no doubt hoping Michael was unaware of our encounter.

When I emerged from the bedroom fully clothed, our friend had gone. “Guess who just fucked your wife,” I said to Michael. He looked at me as if to say “You’re kidding!”

“He couldn’t stop himself but at least he didn’t tell me that he loves his girlfriend.”

“What about condoms?” Michael asked.

“Not this time.” I said with a smile.

Monday, December 16, 2013

Cuckolding for couples


I have noticed that there is a lot of talk circulating in the "mainstream" about cuckolding. The subject has come up with women both socially and on female forum boards where my background and predilections are entirely unknown and it is interesting to hear the range of responses that go from "Wow!" to "Whatever rocks your boat" to "You've got to be joking!".

When I saw this video, I thought it might make an interesting intro to couples as a way of visually exploring the sights and sounds of cuckolding and to see if it is a turn-on, whether as a reality or a fun, fantasy role-play.

Let me know what you think.

Thursday, December 5, 2013

The Sacred Prostitute

In her book The Sacred Prostitute: Eternal Aspect of the Feminine, Nancy Qualls-Corbett has touched on the reason that cuckolding as a lifestyle so appealed to me when I first learned of it from Michael. Far from seeing cuckolding as a modified form of swinging, I perceived the lifestyle as an exaltation of the feminine and the divine powers of female sexuality which has been debased and manipulated in our patriarchal society.

Some suggest that cuckolding is one-sided and unfair to the male who remains monogamous but this reflects a fundamental misunderstanding of its essence. It is the female that is the center of the universe and, as an activity, cuckolding admits and relishes this fact. The cuckold takes pleasure in the fact that other men can offer tribute to his woman and if humiliation is an element of this, I would say that it is a gift from that part of our patriarchal society that is still an active ingredient in a couple's mindset.

Let me know what you think.

Wednesday, November 27, 2013

When it Comes to Love: Break the Rules...

If you haven't discovered The Elephant Journal, I suggest you might enjoy it. I particularly liked the article When it Comes to Love: Break the Rules though it wasn't referring to cuckolding, neither does it exclude the lifestyle and offers up insight that, I think, should apply to all of us enamored of the lifestyle.

Here is the link:

Wednesday, October 30, 2013

Hot Wife Blog

I must confess that I have been drawn to the Hot Wife Blog over the past year or so. It is a very sexy site dedicated to hotwives and their relationships with lovers and husbands. Many of the women there are in the business of marketing hotwife tapes and my personal favorite is Jackie.

I resisted the site at first because it had the appearance of a porn site offering cuckold fare. However, I kept finding myself going back to browse the site and enjoy what I saw and read there. It really does offer a good understanding of what we are giving and getting from the lifestyle and for this I thank them and recommend that you pay the site a visit!

Wednesday, October 9, 2013

Sending cuckolding greeting cards

I love creating and sending E cards like the one above to some very close friends or lovers. Has anyone created cards of their own on this theme? Did you actually send them? I find that it can be an interesting way of introducing the idea of cuckolding to a potential lover so he knows that Michael is cool with the idea.

Sunday, September 29, 2013

The Sacred Prostitute

I think this video and the book The Sacred Prostitute should have a special resonance for every woman engaged in or contemplating the cuckolding lifestyle. The Sacred Prostitute by Nancy Qualls-Corbett