Hotwife and cuckold = femdom?

I don't think of myself as a domme but realize that I can and do have both submissive and dominant qualities that show themselves at different times. Maybe it depends on who is around me at the time. Maybe it is simply a matter of what I need to express at any given moment. I can be either and enjoy them both.

Michael is not a submissive but I occasionally get the urge to "femdom" him by doing something to make him jealous. This might seem strange since we are definitely into the Hotwife lifestyle, so how does jealousy come into play? Usually I provoke it by saying or doing something that comes very close to breaking one of our rules. Sometimes, I go ahead and break a rule. Yes, we have rules. One is that Michael doesn't fuck other women.

Once we were at a business get-together and I was looking at the bulge in another man's pants. "Nice cock!" I said with Michael sitting next to me. Both men were embarassed but saying it got me wet. It probably got them both hard when they thought about it later but it broke the rule about crossing the line with people who know us. Another time, I was feeling mischeivous and told a lover that Michael wanted to suck his cock. Michael was watching him fuck me when I said it and I could feel my lover's cock get harder and I noticed that Michael's cock stiffened after I said it.

I don't know if this qualifies me as a part-time domme, but I do know that I enjoy it.